Merry Christmahanukkwanza Family,
I have been impressed the past few years in our family's unspoken goal to push the envelope and do something a little bit ... shall we say ... outside the box.
I could probably write a novel about how father has walked to the beat of a different, "better" drum; and while his actions are often subtle and not as recognized as they should be (he is a specialist in humility after all), I am certain that they are appreciated by those who benefit from them.
Mother has given her time to help those kids that so often get left behind in our school system, and shown them that someone cares and wants to help them. It is a shame that the school's budget committee does not feel as strongly.
"Oh Mandy" introduced a detailed plan of progressiveness to the school system only to have it approved, then disapproved. While the plan did not turn out as ideally as hoped, she challenged the system and was nearly part of pilot program. Plus, she gets to hang out more with the kids. What could be better?
Dave took on a new role this year in the Attendance Office. I think a lot of kids fear going into that office, because they have generally done something “wrong” to be there. However, I think they probably find Dave as someone who is actually listening to them, understanding their problems, and trying to help them as best he can . . . not just someone strictly enforcing policies. As a coach, I am sure he fills similar roles in the daily lives of kids.
Aaroneous weathered a family counseling program far longer than most would dare. And, though you were frequently seen as an outsider who couldn’t possibly understand their lives, they surely knew that you cared.
At some point . . . somewhere between giving Toms Shoes, sacrificing your gifts to give money to a charity honoring a friend, forgoing wedding presents for charity, etc . . . the notion of giving "different, creative gifts" trickled down to the holidays, most notably Christmas. We certainly aren’t perfect and probably don’t give as much as we could, but I thank mom and dad for instilling those values in us at a young age (I will always remember giving to family’s during the holidays at Church).
Continuing on this avenue, I decided to come up with a unique gift that gives back (intellectually and socially to us as family) the whole year. At this point, you have probably guessed/noticed that I have created the Sawyer Family Book Club (SFBC).
I know what you are thinking . . . Dave probably thinks this is cheesy and so beautifully Sawyerish (isn’t it though) . . . Mandy loves it . . . Aaron is wondering how he will fit it in between reading Herman Ebbinghaus and pondering whether Tinbergen should have had five questions instead of four . . . Mother thinks I tried hard, but the SFBC will never rival Oprah’s (James Taylor was for you) . . . and father is already wondering if I will be giving him an award for most frequent blogger.
However, I don't want this just to be a forum just to comment about books. I want this to be a social space for us. If you find an interesting article online, post it to the site. If you post new pics on the Kodak site, let everyone know. If something funny happened, give us a laugh. You get the idea. I know this may be a bit forced at first, but if we get some good buy in this could be a great space for our family. May be we could even get Grandpa in on it. Enjoy the gift.
With love,
Bubby


testing for Mommo
ReplyDeleteI have read the first two chapters of the new selection and looks like will be of interest, thought it would be nice if the author would report more personal converstations with the good doctor. A smile to you. Daddo
ReplyDeleteI have just completed "The Shack" It was a 9 on the page turner scale. Many interesting takes on Christianity. I was initially reluctant to get started on this book, but more than pleasantly suprised. The "jist" of this book is that we all get caught up in trying to control our future by setting up or following rules that have been learned or ingrained in us regarding religion, economics and politics, trying to control those around us for our self serving or at best self protection interests. This distracts us from relationship with God (=love)if we have chosen to accept one. There are discussions on forgiveness, reconciliation, judgement,emotions including anger, It covers many topics, including "When Bad Things Happen to Good People" a classic by Howard Kushner. It covers blaming ( a type of judgement). Consequences of selfish behaviour is discussed. Find out why the Jesus in this book says He is not a Christian. rs
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ReplyDeleteYou can look on Amazon to get reviews of this book, but suggest you read it and decide you take on it. The negative reviews seem to come from "Christain" academic types and the positive reviews from folk who have not been able to figure out why organized religion at times can be difficult and yet have discoved why small groups are so wonderful. Other readings that relate to this would "No Peace without forgiveness" by Desmond Tutu. "Full Catatastophe Living" by Jon Kabat-Zinn. Might recommend the audio version ot this one. "Breathe You are Alive" by Thich Nacht Hahn and especially The Gospel According to Jesus by Stephen Mitchell. May you all be able to miminize suffering, forgive those who cause it (including yourself) discover and develop loving relationships, experience joy and serve each other love, make the best of bad situations and try not to create them. Breathing in, I know I am breathing in, breathing out I smile a smile to you. Daddo
Andrew, could you put a copy of the book cover on this web site??? P.S. If you have not started the book, all the above is wrapped in to a story of a father who has lost his daughter to a serial killer and was a son of an alcoholic and abusive father.
ReplyDeleteSo glad you enjoyed the book, Dad! I absolutely loved it. How is this possible regarding the topic? The book is a true story. The beginning was so difficult to read b/c of the horror of a child taken and murdered; however, the healing that takes place in the father is indeed incredible. Certainly not the kind of healing he planned for or imagined. How he is able to find forgiveness for his father is unquestionably a work of the heart and of spirit. The look at forgiveness and reconciliation in this book is so unique. This book takes a look at the most difficult question..."Where is God in the midst of horrific pain and tragedy?" So many parts of this book rang true for me...such as...thinking my way and vision of what "should" happen is right and accurate, certainly the self-protective measures, being afraid sometimes to step outside my comfort zone, etc. So many times while reading, I thought to myself..."Wow, I do that, and I never thought about it in that way." I'll have to go back to find some specific examples. Certainly my time getting my counseling degree has been an incredibly spiritual and intense personal journey of discovery...not only b/c I've been studying at Grace, but then again, because I've been at Grace I've learned so much about my intentions, actions, etc. I've become a more aware (and hopefully a better!) wife, mother, friend, etc...more open to sharing my feelings, feeling comfortable in the midst of conflict, etc...I felt this book just enlightened me even more in those regards. Spiritually speaking, my favorite part of the book was the idea of living with God, Jesus, and particularly the Holy Spirit (Sarayu in the book). Rather than taking a specific time to pray, read the Bible, etc., the idea is to be in constant relationship and in the presence of God. Whether one has a relationship with Him or not, being in constant awareness of the beauty, miracles around us, is important. Since reading the book, instead of saving up a million things to pray about at night, I just allow myself to be in awe of those things at the moment, and say thanks, talk to God about it right then. Such as...Keller putting his arm around Finn, telling him he'll protect him through the scary parts of a movie and Finn saying, "Ok, Kel, you protect me in the scary parts."...watching Dave chase Keller on the Winona trail on his bike...Keller and Finn rolling down the hills at Pyramid Point just like we use to as kids...Dad a few weeks ago, calling to say, "I just called to get my Mandy-level up, and missed the kids...maybe I'll stop by."...runs through Winona at dusk, particularly around the island...just being in our backyard with Dave and the boys -- the garden, the cat, the dog, etc.... As typical, my post is lengthy and somewhat corny some may think, but this book really moved me. Rarely am I moved to read a book a 2nd time, but this may be one. Hope you all enjoy it, whether spiritually or just in taking a new look at intention and self. Love, Mandy
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